Comments on: Choices

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 28 May 2008 22:39:15 +0000

Thanks Toni!! There really is a clarity you get in midlife or maybe it’s a line of sight to what you really want. And you head in that direction. Yeah, there might be roadblocks but we get a lot better in midlife at either taking them down or taking a detour. Karen

By: Toni Jackson

Toni Jackson — Wed, 28 May 2008 03:11:48 +0000

Wow! Karen you really nailed it! Decision making before my fifties was agonizing. But when you get past the drama–like you said–make a choice–you make progress. Right or wrong–you have taken a direction—and you can take another direction if you want–just don’t waste time agonizing–research maybe–but don’t stress it.-there are worse things happening in the world. You were always a good coach!

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 28 May 2008 02:06:04 +0000

Margaret — I think my sister was relieved but maybe also a little frustrated because Peanut didn’t listen when my sister suggested going home. But maybe she didn’t phrase it as a choice. I’m not sure because I couldn’t hear over Peanut drama-queen crying! I seem to remember the same situation though when my son was young. That’s how I learned the lesson. Karen

Carol–Good point. I think you hit the nail on the head about the acting out piece. Peanut was very excited to go to the zoo but maybe what she really wanted was just to go to the playscape at the zoo. Hard to tell. Karen

By: Carol Freedman

Carol Freedman — Wed, 28 May 2008 01:25:29 +0000

I think as we get older we are a little less caught up in what kids “should” do – as in they SHOULD like to see animals. Our son, Sayer, has autism and he has never liked the zoo. I think some kids just feel uncomfortable seeing animals in cages. Maybe they can’t verbalize how they feel so they act out?

By: Margaret

Margaret — Tue, 27 May 2008 05:51:16 +0000

Wow, Karen. Nice move with the Peanut. How did your sister react? Was she relieved or was she frustrated that you were more effective in this situation? I’m sure there are times when a child won’t listen to her mother, simply because it’s her mother, but will listen to someone else, which must be trying for poor Mom. The same goes for husbands and wives, I find.