Midlife’s A Trip

Can You Recover from Being a Control Freak?

Posted on 04. Oct, 2007 by Karen in Misc

Over the past 24 hours, I’ve been on the phone for 5 of those troubleshooting a problem with my telephone.  Since I rely heavily on the phone and computer as tools for my life coaching practice, it’s an understatement to say that I was stressed out by the situation.  The problem for me was three-fold–

1. Not knowing how to fix it,
2. Having to depend on someone else for the fix and
3. Being patient.

All this relates directly to my being a control freak in recovery.  Actually I’ve come a long way in letting things just unfold in life but yesterday was a true test.  My tech skills are OK but I had no clue on how to fix the problem.  So I had to call someone else and be patient while they figured it all out.  Every fiber of me wanted to be in control but obviously I couldn’t.

At one point it seemed that the problem was fixed but then both the phone and Internet access went out.  I started to call for help again but realized that it was time to just step back and let it all go for a while.  And I did.  I picked up the scarf that I’m knitting, turn on the TV, propped up in bed and let all that tech stuff fade into the background.

This morning I got up at 5:30am, called the tech center again.  I pleased to report that everything works again.  The lesson from this situation was that the point when the problem seemed the worse is the point when I was trying to exercise control or was frustrated because I couldn’t.  I got it.  I also got that you can recover from being a control freak—one day at a time.

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